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Self Hatred is a Practice
Have you ever noticed that little voice in your brain that talks shit to you every day? Ugh – it’s so annoying. There is this book called “The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself” and it’s by an author named Michael A. Singer. And in the very beginning of this book, he encourages us to personify the chatter in your head.
Like – literally imagine that this voice is some asshole named Bob, or your annoying co-worker Karen. And imagine that they’re sitting next to you, saying stupid shit to you. Like, “You look ugly today.” “Looks like you need to lose a little weight, there,” “You’ll never get a boyfriend,” and so on…
When you actually personify that voice, for whatever reason, it makes it easier to tell it to shut the hell up. You also may notice that it says mean shit to you on a daily – or even hourly – basis. Would you talk to a friend that way? Hopefully not.
So, as you can see, self-hatred is a practice.
Whether you realize it or not, you engage in self-hatred practices all the time.
Toxic self-talk is just one example. Shame and guilt are another. Beating ourselves up over things that aren’t our fault – that’s another. Not going to the doctor when we know we need to – that’s another.
What self-hatred practices do you engage in on a daily basis? And can you replace even one of these with a self-love practice? I’d love to hear your thoughts.